I shall speak from an Australian perspective for most of this.
Statistics from 2003 to 2012 show that for this 10 year period, 8525 people in Australia were killed in road fatalities. Suicide however, claimed 22,824 Australian lives for the same period of time (bear in mind America loses approximately 40,000 people a year to suicide and the mind gets blown away even more).
Now why does the government and media not jump on this to try and stop this mass loss of lives? Are they that incompetent they cannot source some form of strategy or strategies to support people at risk? Or do they genuinely not give a rats arse about it?
Almost 3 times the amount of deaths caused by suicide in a 10 year period, than to road fatalities? And not much is said.
Sure the media will jump onto a story when it is a famous person who dies by suicide. They have to keep those ratings up somehow. But even then they botch it up by using incorrect and uneducated terms such as ‘committed suicide’ or they provide details of how the victim took their life. It’s all about their ratings I guess. Not about any sensitivity for the victims family and friends … Who by the way, are also now victims by default and the vultures of the media world simply do not care one iota about how much more pain and anguish they heap upon these poor peoples heads. Shame on them.
But us everyday folk who lose a loved one (or ones) to suicide at least do not have to battle with the media. Instead our loved one is delegated to just a number on a coroners statistical report for the year. The media don’t care because there’s no hype or benefit to them to report about john smith who took his own life. To them they are a nobody.
But this is where they are wrong. Every person has connections to others. Even though in their hour of darkest times, the suicide victim feels bereft of all who love them, there is a massive tremor that rolls through a community when someone they know dies by suicide. And the tremor does not just hit once or a few aftershocks in the couple of weeks after the person has died. They continue to keep on rolling in all the time, at varying intensity and frequency, so the survivors are left with a sense of instability they could never have envisioned, for many many years afterwards.
They say there are up to 6 people closely impacted by each suicide. I know with Jaies I can assure you that it is far more than just 6 people. Myself, his brother, his sister, his fiancée, his daughter, his grandparents, certain friends and family members… We are all still reeling after almost 12 months of no longer having our precious boy with us.
All I wish for is that I had an extra 2 weeks in which I could have sourced professional help for jaie with his bipolar and his stress and anxiety levels. I will never know if it could have saved him, but I truly do believe that it would have given him a far better chance than nothing being done by me.
I am just stunned that the figures of deaths by suicide are so unknown. In Australia. In America. In Britain. In Canada. Across the world.
Every 40 seconds someone, somewhere dies by suicide. Every 41 seconds someone, somewhere is left to try and make sense of it.
Approximately 1 million people die by suicide each year in the world. And still nothing is said.
And believe me when I say, there is very little sense to be made from a death such as suicide.
‘Love sometimes comes like a dream & leaves like a nightmare’